Changing People Quotes

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Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be. - Thomas à Kempis quote.
Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.

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A man marries a woman hoping she'll never change—and she does.  A woman marries a man hoping he will change—and he doesn't.

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Most of us are about as eager to be changed as we were to be born, and go through our changes in a similar state of shock. - James Baldwin quote.
Most of us are about as eager to be changed as we were to be born, and go through our changes in a similar state of shock.

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A belated discovery, one that causes considerable anguish, is that no one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be unlocked from the inside.  We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or emotional appeal. - Marilyn Ferguson quote.
A belated discovery, one that causes considerable anguish, is that no one can persuade another to change. Each of us guards a gate of change that can only be unlocked from the inside.  We cannot open the gate of another, either by argument or emotional appeal.
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves: we must die to one life before we can enter into another! - Anatole France quote.
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves: we must die to one life before we can enter into another!

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Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself. - Leo Tolstoy quote.
Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.

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Every therapeutic cure, and still more, any awkward attempt to show the patient the truth, tears him from the cradle of his freedom of responsibility and must therefore reckon with the most vehement resistance. - Alfred Adler quote.
Every therapeutic cure, and still more, any awkward attempt to show the patient the truth, tears him from the cradle of his freedom of responsibility and must therefore reckon with the most vehement resistance.
Alfred Adler The Individual Psychology of Alfred Adler

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All appears to change when we change. - Henri-Frédéric Amiel quote.
All appears to change when we change.
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, the courage to change the one I can, and the wisdom to know it's me.
You can't grow somebody else up.
Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye?
— Bible, Matthew 7:3

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Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others.
Jacob M. Braude Braude’s Handbook of Stories for Toastmasters and Speakers
Never underestimate your power to change yourself; never overestimate your power to change others.
If a man wants to be of the greatest possible value to his fellow-creatures, let him begin the long, solitary process of perfecting himself. - Robertson Davies quote.
If a man wants to be of the greatest possible value to his fellow-creatures, let him begin the long, solitary process of perfecting himself.
There is, perhaps no surer mark of folly, than an attempt to correct the natural infirmities of those we love.  The finest composition of human nature, as well as the finest china, may have a flaw in it; and this, I am afraid, in either case, is equally incurable; though, nevertheless, the pattern may remain of the highest value. - Henry Fielding quote.
There is, perhaps no surer mark of folly, than an attempt to correct the natural infirmities of those we love.  The finest composition of human nature, as well as the finest china, may have a flaw in it; and this, I am afraid, in either case, is equally incurable; though, nevertheless, the pattern may remain of the highest value.
Faced with the choice between changing one's mind and proving that there is no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy on the proof. - John Kenneth Galbraith quote.
Faced with the choice between changing one's mind and proving that there is no need to do so, almost everyone gets busy on the proof.
Do not worry about what others are doing!  Each of us should turn the searchlight inward and purify his or her own heart as much as possible. - Mahatma Gandhi quote.
Do not worry about what others are doing!  Each of us should turn the searchlight inward and purify his or her own heart as much as possible.
You can't save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don't appreciate your interfering with the drama they've created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don't want to change.  This is a truth I never seem to learn. - Sue Grafton quote.
You can't save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don't appreciate your interfering with the drama they've created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don't want to change.  This is a truth I never seem to learn.
I wanted to change the world.   But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself. - Aldous Huxley quote.
I wanted to change the world.   But I have found that the only thing one can be sure of changing is oneself.
Whereas I formerly believed it to be my bounden duty to call others to order, I must now admit that I need calling to order myself, and that I would do better to set my own house to rights first. - Carl Jung quote.
Whereas I formerly believed it to be my bounden duty to call others to order, I must now admit that I need calling to order myself, and that I would do better to set my own house to rights first.
The foolish and the dead alone never change their opinions. - James Russell Lowell quote.
The foolish and the dead alone never change their opinions.

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Like all weak men he laid an exaggerated stress on not changing his mind. - W. Somerset Maugham quote.
Like all weak men he laid an exaggerated stress on not changing his mind.
Even if there were only two men left in the world and both of them saints they wouldn't be happy.  One of them would be bound to try and improve the other. That is the nature of things.
I haven't got the slightest idea how to change people, but still I keep a long list of prospective candidates just in case I should ever figure it out.
If you want to make enemies, try to change something. - Woodrow Wilson quote.
If you want to make enemies, try to change something.
You can't change people, but you can effect a change in them by your behavior.
Change yourself and you have done your part in changing the world.  Every individual must change his own life if he wants to live in a peaceful world. - Yogananda quote.
Change yourself and you have done your part in changing the world.  Every individual must change his own life if he wants to live in a peaceful world.
You can change only what people know, not what they do. - Scott Adams quote.
You can change only what people know, not what they do.
If you spend all your time arguing with people who are nuts, you'll be exhausted and the nuts will still be nuts. - Scott Adams quote.
If you spend all your time arguing with people who are nuts, you'll be exhausted and the nuts will still be nuts.

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Attack the evil that is within yourself, rather than attacking the evil that is in others. - Confucius quote.
Attack the evil that is within yourself, rather than attacking the evil that is in others.

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