Rollo May Quotes

Most popular Rollo May Quotes

One does not become fully human painlessly.

mankind becoming growth pain

Hate is not the opposite of love; apathy is.


There is no meaningful yes unless the individual could also have said no.

saying no saying Yes

Care is a state in which something does matter; it is the source of human tenderness.


It is an old and ironic habit of human beings to run faster when we have lost our way.

losing our way

Purpose in the human being is a much more complex phenomenon than what used to be called will power.

willpower purpose of life

Depression can be usefully seen, from one point of view, as the inability to see or construct a future.


Freedom is man's capacity to take a hand in his own development.  It is our capacity to mold ourselves.


The past has meaning as it lights up the present, and the future as it makes the present richer and more profound.

future the past

If you do not express your own original ideas, if you do not listen to your own being, you will have betrayed yourself.

authenticity originality individuality

Finding the center of strength within ourselves is in the long run the best contribution we can make to our fellow men.


Intimacy requires courage because risk is inescapable. We cannot know at the outset how the relationship will affect us.

risk-taking intimacy

Joy, rather than happiness, is the goal of life, for joy is the emotion which accompanies our fulfilling our natures as human beings.


Human freedom involves our capacity to pause between stimulus and response and, in that pause, to choose the one response toward which we wish to throw our weight.


Courage is not a virtue or value among other personal values like love or fidelity.  It is the foundation that underlies and gives reality to all other virtues and personal values.


It is highly significant, and indeed almost a rule, that moral courage has its source in identification through one's own sensitivity with the suffering of one's fellow human beings.


Artists are generally soft-spoken persons who are concerned with their inner visions and images. But that is precisely what makes them feared by any coercive society. For they are the bearers of the human being's age-old capacity to be insurgent.


If any organism fails to fulfill its potentialities, it becomes sick, just as your legs would wither if you never walked.  But the power of your legs is not all you would lose.  The flowing of your blood, your heart action, your whole organism would be the weaker.


Tenderness emerges from the fact that the two persons, longing, as all individuals do, to overcome the separateness and isolation to which we are all heir because we are individuals, can participate in a relationship that, for the moment, is not of two isolated selves but a union.