Harriet Lerner Quotes

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The Dance of Anger.
— Harriet Lerner

anger

Anger is a signal, and one worth listening to.

anger

Feeling inadequate is an occupational hazard of motherhood.

motherhood

The first world we find ourselves in is a family that is not of our choosing.

family

Underground issues from one relationship or context invariably fuel our fires in another.

relationships

Many of our problems with anger occur when we choose between having a relationship and having a self.

anger the self

Self-help books for women are part of a multibillion-dollar industry, sensitively attuned to our insecurities and our purses.
— Harriet Lerner Ms

insecurity

Although it's not useful to drown in despair, it's also not useful to keep a "positive attitude" when this means concealing or denying real emotions.

attitude

Intimate relationships cannot substitute for a life plan. But to have any meaning or viability at all, a life plan must include intimate relationships.

intimacy

Anger is a signal and one worth listening to..... Just as physical pain tells us to take our hand off the hot stove, the pain of our anger preserves the very integrity of our self.
— Harriet Lerner

anger

Deception and "con games" are a way of life in all species and throughout nature. Organisms that do not improve their ability to deceive—and to detect deception—are less apt to survive.

deceit

Most of us experience fear as a kind of stop sign or flashing red light that warns: 'Danger! Do not enter!'  But we may need to decode that signal and consider what it's trying to convey.

fear