Gail Sheehy Quotes

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Creativity can be described as letting go of certainties.


Men are not given awards and promotions for bravery in intimacy.

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To be tested is good.  The challenged life may be the best therapist.

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Leaders are people we as followers want to regard with awe as the fullest flowering of our own possibilities.


No sooner do we think we have assembled a comfortable life than we find a piece of ourselves that has no place to fit in.
— Gail Sheehy


Changes are not only possible and predictable, but to deny them is to be an accomplice to one's own unnecessary vegetation.


If we don't change, we don't grow.  If we don't grow, we are not really living.  Growth demands a temporary surrender of security.

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The secret of caregiving success took me years to discover.  Quite simply, we cannot do it alone.  No one can.  We must create a support circle—a circle of care.


Adolescents are like cockroaches: They come out the minute you leave town, crawl the walls, feed indiscriminately, reproduce alarmingly unless drugged, and will certainly outlast you.


For some caregivers, this role offers a chance in Second Adulthood to compose a more tender sequel to the troubled drama of our First Adulthoood.  We can become better than our younger selves.


My mother had demonstrated that the best way to defeat the numbing ambivalence of middle age is to surprise yourself—by pulling off some cartwheel of thought or action never even imagined at a younger age.

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Children may need challenges and high-risk conditions in order to develop the self-generated immunity to trauma that characterizes survivors.  To be tested is good.  The challenged life may be the best therapist.


The caregiver's journey . . . does not proceed from stage to stage in a neat fashion.  It is definitely not linear.  It feels like we are going around in circles, thinking we have resolved a crisis only to have it return or be superseded by a different, unexpected crisis.


We are not unlike a particularly hardy crustacean.  The lobster grows by developing and shedding a series of hard, protective shells.  Each time it expands from within, the confining skin must be sloughed off.  It is left exposed and vulnerable until, in time, a new covering grows to replace the old.